I recently drove with my 4 boys (ages 8 and under) clear across the country--from North Carolina to Las Vegas, Nevada. Crazy? Maybe. But here's the really crazy part: I did it without my husband (or any other adult for that matter). I also did it without the aide of any electronic devices. That's right--no dvds, no ipads, no video games. Honestly, I had a bin of all that kind of stuff but my boys were doing so well without it that I never pulled it out. And I just knew it would cause all sorts of fighting over which device they got that I just avoided it altogether.
So on the off chance that I ever attempt this again I thought I would record what worked--and share it with you too! (You should know that I was in no rush--we didn't have a set number of hours we had to drive so we woke up when we woke up and we drove until dinner time.)
First off, I had everything that I might need while driving easily accessible. For me that meant snacks (for myself and the boys), a few different activity bins and mystery bags (I'll explain more in a minute), water, and my phone. I didn't want to have sugary filled snacks so we brought: fruit strips, cliff kidz bars, grapes, string cheese, pretzels, popcorn, and beef jerky.
In the back I had a book bin for the boys. It was filled with some of our favorites, a few new ones (Where's Waldo turned out to be a huge hit!), several workbooks, sticker books and notebooks for drawing. There was also a small cooler for milk (my boys are big milk drinkers) and string cheese. Each boy was also equipped with his own backpack full of goodies (stickers, crayons, colored pencils, colored pens, water bottle, small containers of legos, a cookie sheet for a desk, a map with our route highlighted, etc). They also each had their own pillow and blanket. (I don't know if I'd bring both again, but we were moving so we needed them to sleep in our empty house the night before we left.)
Every day we stopped at a park or a rest stop for lunch. No fast food. (We saved that for dinner.) I had a little bin that was easy to get to full of sandwich stuff, fruit, nuts, paper towel, and a knife. I'm really glad that I decided to do this. Even with eating fast food for dinner we were sick of it by the end of our trip. It was nice to eat something filling and fresh before sitting for another few hours.
We would all eat, go to the bathroom, and then the boys would run around and burn some energy. Our lunch breaks usually lasted about an hour. Like I said, we were in no real hurry. I also made sure that the baby's diaper was changed at this time... so diapers and wipes were always easy to get to.
One of the things that worked magically was listening to an audio book. I found one that I thought my boys would enjoy and we listened to it for an hour or more every day. The boys loved it. One of the bins up by my seat was full of cds that we listened to as well. I made sure I had some fun music in addition to some calming tunes for when the boys needed to settle down a little bit.
A wonderful tip I received before leaving was to have an overnight bag to take into the hotel. This was a lifesaver! Instead of sifting through all of our stuff (or lugging it all in) every night I had just a few small bags that I brought in. They had diapers, pajamas, swim stuff and a change of clothes. I also brought in a bag with my laptop and a few other things that I could do after the boys had fallen asleep. Everything else stayed in the car.
Because I was on my own and my boys are still young I had a few requirements for hotels every night. Number one: I had to feel safe. Number two: Free breakfast. I wasn't about to go searching for breakfast every morning or try to take the boys somewhere. Number three: a pool. This way we could get all our energy out at night before we headed to bed. We were lucky enough to find places with pools every night. And the boys were usually nice and exhausted by the time we got to bed.
I was exhausted every night as well. However, I found that to keep my sanity I had to do something for myself every night. I didn't want to stay up too long because I had a big day of driving awaiting me but I took about an hour to relax. Some nights it was taking a bath with some essential oils. Other nights it was doing some Sudoku or hopping on to Facebook. Whatever it was I just needed to collect myself before starting again the next day.
A few other things that kept us sane.
Activity bins: I had three shoe box size bins near me. One was full of music and audio books. Another was full of travel games. We had Guess Who, Travel Bingo, War, Go Fish, Old Maid, etc. When kids got bored I could pull out a game (and hope that someone wanted to play with them!). My last bin was full of craft things. We had pipe cleaners, glue stick, pads of construction paper, crayons, washi tape, stickers, etc in this bin. I put it together at the last minute and wasn't sure how it was going to go over. But on one of our last days in the car we pulled it out. It was a huge hit! I was amazed at the things they came up with to craft. They didn't need direction they just used their imagination! This is definitely a must-have for future road trips.
I gathered several brown paper sacks and put different surprises in them. Whenever I felt that the boys were getting antsy or needed a distraction we would pull one out. Sometimes it was something to look forward to. I would tell them, "In one hour we will pull out a mystery bag!" It kept them happy and it was a much shorter milestone to look forward to than lunch or dinner.
Our mystery bags included:
mustaches (these provided way more entertainment than I imagined they would!)
magnifying glasses (one for each boy from the dollar store)
small puzzles (from the dollar spot at Target... and each boy had a small cookie sheet as a desk so they were able to do the puzzle on their lap)
post-its (again, a much bigger hit than I imagined!)
wikki stix (we have never had them so it was a really exciting thing!)
lacing cards
Another fun find was a book about the 50 states. Because our road trip covered several states it was fun to read about each one as we passed through.
My two oldest were a great help--they would help the younger ones with things that were dropped, grab milk from the cooler and pass things back and forth.
I don't want to do another 2000 mile road trip any time soon but it was actually a great experience. Now that I've shared what worked for me I'd
love to hear what has worked for your road trips!
